Yes. Words are not enough. That’s how it appears most of the
time. Even though ‘words’ have earned me bread and butter, I have discovered that
‘words’ in shape of speech or writing, is one out of many confining elements that tend to
limit the mind from complete understanding , fathoming the depth, or realizing
beyond what is visible. Right now, when I am trying to jot down my thoughts to
communicate with you, I am struggling with vocabulary. I am really not sure,
whether I am able to convey what I want you to understand.
Words are very powerful, yet, simply words are not enough! No
knowledge or understanding can be replaced by words. It has to be perceived,
understood and realized through experience. It limits and even manipulates or changes the
description of experience, thoughts and the reality of everything.
A man encounters many relationships in a lifetime in professional,
social and personal levels. Words, being the most common mode of communication,
are the most common confining element as well.
Just go back to your memories and analyze… compare the number of times
you have felt correctly understood with the number of times you were trying hard
to communicate but were not satisfied. Conversations
ending up with disappointments are always more in number. And my personal
experience says that people with excellent oratory skills tend to be very
manipulative as they overpower the thinking process of the person on the other
side, and start controlling it. This idea is very unwelcome.
Counselors and therapists often suggest that couples who
undergo relationship problems should talk more. But merely talking will never work when good emotions
related to intention of saving the relationship are not working behind their minds.
When two individuals are not on same emotional /intellectual plane, it’s rare
that they understand each other. The bridge of communication is never built by
words. The bridge is made of feelings and emotions getting exchanged between
two individuals, intentionally or without intention. Words are the weakest
links in that bridge. Every so often,
words become redundant. And everyone encounter such situations in life.
I wish, the human race evolve to such mode of communication
where there will be no room for cunningness, manipulation and lies. Our minds have that capability, and most of
us are not aware of it or don’t know how to use it. They say that silence
speaks a thousand words. But we never use that silence…we never learned to use
silence as a mode of communication. If we
could, half the troubles and conflicts of our life would be resolved or never
occur!
For me, I identified my problem while communicating through
words, yet I don’t know how to use silence.
Again...I'll have to use words to express my feelings..my thoughts Paro. :)
ReplyDeleteBut in my case, I care less about my words being interpreted in a wrong way by others, as over the years we tend to learn that words were and will ever remain the same and the meaning one derives from them depends on that individuals thought process. So no matter how much ever I try to make a person understand, he/she will not understand if that persons way of looking at things in life differs from mine. And in such cases, not else would work to make them understand our thoughts. So I prefer using the words I feel right, make myself sure that I am attempting to express myself in the right way, and after that don't go at length to make others understand it the way I want the to. Each one has their own right to interpret things...it can be a dark night always ending in a bright day, or a bright day always ending in a dark night...same thing but different thoughts :)
Paro,
ReplyDeletethanks a lot for this post:)...it stimulated my feelings and made me think and ponder.
My viewpoint
I agree with you that people use words to manipulate others,to con and deceive....but still I feel that we can use words as an effective means of communication....if two people are eager to understand each other without prejudices or biased attitudes, then words will definitely work for them...the willingness to co-ordinate on a mental or emotional level can lead to effective communication...India is a spiritual country...here, people listen to spiritual leaders and gurus in rapt attention....this is the willingness that is needed for fruitful understanding and communication...but as you have talked about "conversations ending with disappointments"...yes, it is true that everyone encounters this type of experiences in life....but words can heal and transform the bitter experiences of life into meaningful ones...what is required is two people with open minds who are eager to listen to each other....but sadly, people with open minds are rare....yes, indeed paro..you have highlighted the reality in an effective manner:)....
To add on, I feel that silence works as an effective medium of communication among lovers and close buddies only:)...
thanks again.
Thank you Praksh for such a thoughtful comment. :) And yes, I do agree with you.
ReplyDeletePlease keep visiting more often and share your views.
Sure Paro:)....I would love to delve deeper into your thoughts:)...
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