Yes. Words are not enough. That’s how it appears most of the time. Even though ‘words’ have earned me bread and butter, I have discovered that ‘words’ in shape of speech or writing, is one out of many confining elements that tend to limit the mind from complete understanding , fathoming the depth, or realizing beyond what is visible. Right now, when I am trying to jot down my thoughts to communicate with you, I am struggling with vocabulary. I am really not sure, whether I am able to convey what I want you to understand.
Words are very powerful, yet, simply words are not enough! No knowledge or understanding can be replaced by words. It has to be perceived, understood and realized through experience. It limits and even manipulates or changes the description of experience, thoughts and the reality of everything.
A man encounters many relationships in a lifetime in professional, social and personal levels. Words, being the most common mode of communication, are the most common confining element as well. Just go back to your memories and analyze… compare the number of times you have felt correctly understood with the number of times you were trying hard to communicate but were not satisfied. Conversations ending up with disappointments are always more in number. And my personal experience says that people with excellent oratory skills tend to be very manipulative as they overpower the thinking process of the person on the other side, and start controlling it. This idea is very unwelcome.
Counselors and therapists often suggest that couples who undergo relationship problems should talk more. But merely talking will never work when good emotions related to intention of saving the relationship are not working behind their minds. When two individuals are not on same emotional /intellectual plane, it’s rare that they understand each other. The bridge of communication is never built by words. The bridge is made of feelings and emotions getting exchanged between two individuals, intentionally or without intention. Words are the weakest links in that bridge. Every so often, words become redundant. And everyone encounter such situations in life.
I wish, the human race evolve to such mode of communication where there will be no room for cunningness, manipulation and lies. Our minds have that capability, and most of us are not aware of it or don’t know how to use it. They say that silence speaks a thousand words. But we never use that silence…we never learned to use silence as a mode of communication. If we could, half the troubles and conflicts of our life would be resolved or never occur!
For me, I identified my problem while communicating through words, yet I don’t know how to use silence.